So I need to raise an issue here. We, as a society, are devastatingly addicted to perfection. The yoga community is just as at fault as anyone else. We are so attached to creating and upholding an ideal image of ourselves, that we've lost touch with our humanity. We've lost our ability to forgive, accept, to love unconditionally. We cast harsh judgement not only on others, but on ourselves, as well.
We've rejected our humanity. We have found ways to escape all things human - pain, grief, loss, challenge, uncertainty, anger, desire, rage, sadness. We have numbed ourselves with addictions to food, sex, Facebook, Instagram, endless entertainment, alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, gaming, self-improvement, even thrill seeking. We have lost an essential part of our selves, our ability to feel.
When we create a false persona of perfection, we create separation, the exact opposite of yoga. Yoga is a practice of union, union of self and other, union of heart and mind, of mind and body, of spirituality and humanity. There is no evolution without the shadow, there is no transcendence without emotional understanding. Our shadows are our greatest teachers.
This problem becomes apparent when we are no longer able to admit our suffering, when we watch a friend struggle with a drug addiction that no one will talk about, when we explode with anger but are somehow unable to forgive ourselves, when we feel we cannot show up to yoga class or dinner at a friend's house because we're not our best self that day. And so continues the perpetual cycle of false image and separation.
We have been gifted this human life, with all of its uncertainty, intensity, wonder, mystery, beauty, chaos, and perfect imperfection. Let us open up to feeling and experiencing deeply. Let us open to carrying our own heartache with tenderness and compassion, so we are better able to support one another. May we forgive ourselves for our faults and commit to sharing both our struggles and our triumphs. May we be free of false personas, projections of the perfect life, and may we open up to experiencing and sharing our tender and precious humanity. This world is aching for connection, for truth, for unconditional compassion. May our "demons" become our greatest of teachers.
About Me, Rachel Heart
Writing about my musings with yoga, dance, nature, and truth. I share from the space of an open heart.